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What is Compassionate Communication?

Compassionate Communication (also known as "Nonviolent Communication" or "NVC") provides an easy to grasp, effective method to get at the root of conflict and pain peacefully. By examining the unmet needs behind what we do or say, these skills help to reduce hostility, resolve differences, heal pain, and strengthen professional and personal relationships.

Nonviolent Communication is not about being "nice". Rather it helps us reach beneath the surface and discover what is honest, alive, and vital within us. With this process, we learn how all of our actions and communications are based on human needs that we are seeking to meet.

With Nonviolent Communication we learn to develop a vocabulary of feelings and needs that helps us to clearly express what is going on in us at any given moment. When we understand and acknowledge our needs, and the needs of others, we develop a shared foundation for much more satisfying and effective relationships. 

*Please note that Nonviolent Communication (or "NVC") is also commonly referred to as "Compassionate Communication", and I may use these terms interchangeably.

Assumptions Underlying the Practice of NVC:

1.  Human feelings and needs are universal.
2.  Feelings point to needs being met or unmet.
3.  All behavior and communication are attempts to meet needs.
4.  All humans have the capacity for compassion.
5.  Cooperation is natural when it comes from choice and connection.
6.  There is enough for all to have basic needs met.
7.  Moving away from "right/wrong", "win/lose" thinking supports us in resolving conflict.

*For more information about Nonviolent Communication and its founder, Marshall Rosenberg Ph.D, please visit www.CNVC.ORG